The Month of Love

(photo credit-Elizabeth Carter Pratt)

so, I was asked to submit my ideas with this question in mind...

Q. What makes your marriage successful.

• don't attempt to control or change the person you chose

• readily forgive and remember you aren't perfect either

• accept every opportunity to serve (your spouse, your family, your church, your neighborhood)...it is true; if you give of yourself you will find yourself.

• sincerely find something to appreciate about your sweetheart every day and make sure that you express that

• decide to be happy...cultivate a thankful heart

• daily grow your testimony

• kiss-hugs-kiss some more-squeeze-pat-wink-smile-wink again-laugh-nudge-every single day

• he is NOT clairvoyant! Don't wait to see if he will remember important dates--give him a heads up and express reasonable expectations. Again, let him know what's on your mind. (in a kind way)

• ask Heavenly Father to help you. He loves you, He knows you, He understands your challenges, He wants you to be happy and successful

• be outside in nature at least 20 minutes a day...dig in the dirt--shovel snow--take a walk...feel and smell each season

• eat a delicious, juicy piece of fruit every day (e.g. peaches) and remember that only Heavenly Father could create something that amazing...because He loves you-

And, I love you too.

always your friend. Cristie

“Marriage requires a high degree of tolerance, and some of us need to cultivate that attribute. I have enjoyed these words of Jenkins Lloyd Jones, which I clipped from the newspaper some years ago. Said he:

“There seems to be a superstition among many thousands of our young [men and women] who hold hands and smooch in the drive-ins that marriage is a cottage surrounded by perpetual hollyhocks to which a perpetually young and handsome husband comes home to a perpetually young and [beautiful] wife. When the hollyhocks wither and boredom and bills appear the divorce courts are jammed. …

“Anyone who imagines that bliss [in marriage] is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed.

“[The fact is] most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. …

“Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed.

“The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride” (“Big Rock Candy Mountains,” Deseret News, 12 June 1973, A4).

Let us face the fact that in this life some of you will marry, some of you may not. For those of you who do, it must be a total commitment, without reservation. It must involve total and unequivocal loyalty. It must be a covenant for eternity, a companionship that will require constant attention and nurturing.

(Gordon B. Hinckley, “A Conversation with Single Adults,” Liahona, Nov 1997, 17)

(what did I forget?)  xox

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